Decisions. Decisions. Decisions.
Stall making decisions?
Want to move forward but don’t know how to decide?
Get stuck in confusion?
Many of my clients struggle when making decisions when we start. They can’t figure out: Should I apply for that new job? Start my own business? Should I take a class? What class? When? Do I go to the gym today? Wait until tomorrow?
We never feel just one way about decisions. If we do, decisions are non-existent, we just act in alignment with what’s true for us.
Decisions come up when we have to choose between two or more courses of action, and when we have conflicting emotions and thoughts about possible impacts.
Often, rather than choosing, we stall, stay confused and don’t do anything. Then, the window of opportunity closes and the decision is made for us. We don’t sign up for that class, apply for the job, or start our own business.
We stay in the familiar but feel empty, like we’re missing something.
The problem is: you’re trying to make the decision using just your head. We’re much more complex beings. Too often you’re missing the most important elements -- your body and heart.
I was coaching, Amanda, who was at a critical transition:
Stay in a job that was secure?
Follow her passion?
She decided to join us for Get Unstuck, a program where we help people get clarity and confidence to move forward on what’s most important to them.
Amanda was a college art student who had turned into successful corporate marketing executive. Her keen design skills kept getting her promoted. Now, 15 years later, her time was spent managing people, schedules, and major projects. UGH.
What Amanda pined for was getting back to her artistic, creative roots. She secretly longed to go back to art school. She was jealous of girlfriends, who after college, had become actual artists. Sure, their bank accounts were smaller, but their lives seemed so rich.
During Get Unstuck, I worked with Amanda, having her settle into her body, feeling her feet and her seat in the chair. Once she felt “home” in her body, I asked her to invite the part of her that didn’t want to sign up for art school to have a conversation with her.
As she turned inward, she reported feeling a buzzing in her head, heaviness in her shoulders, and she curled forward a bit. I suggested she ask what that part of her was worried about. That part of her responded, “I don’t want to fail. I don’t want my dream to die if I can’t cut it.” Amanda was surprised.
Then I asked her to invite the other part of her that wanted to go to art school. She could feel her energy come alive in her chest. Her head lifted. She started smiling. I asked her to ask that part of her what it wanted. It responded, “To express myself through color, shape, and texture.”
Most parts of us don’t need to get their way, but they do need to feel heard.
Having heard from both parts of herself, I asked Amanda what felt like the best next step? She said, “I’m going back to school.”
Through those conversations Amanda was now connected to the larger part of herself rather than being caught in confusion between two parts of herself. She was acting as CEO of herself, having heard from her teammates (parts of herself), she felt freed up to identify the best fit for her going forward.
Next, we worked on having the crucial conversation with her boss.
I asked Amanda, “What would be the best-case scenario? Why not ask for what you really want? All they can do is say no. “
Attending art school would benefit her marketing company with fresh ideas and images. She was worried about the hours. Then, why not ask for a different role and reduced schedule? She complained, “but I need the money.” I countered, “Why not ask for them to pick up the tuition?”
By the last class of Get Unstuck, Amanda had had the conversation with her boss. He was sold that art school would benefit the company. Together they decided to change Amanda’s role and reduce her schedule to a 32-hour work week. In the end, he offered to pay half of the tuition!
Amanda applied for a two-year program and got accepted. She’s now in the middle of her first year and thriving! She’s gotten closer to the design work at the marketing company and loves her job even more!
What decision are your stalling on?
Are you stuck in confusion, avoiding taking action, or worried about failing if you do? Are you nervous about changing the status quo or outshining someone else?
Nothing’s going to change by thinking about it more! What are you waiting for? Join us for Get Unstuck.
We’ll take you through a proven step-by-step process that you’ll give you clarity and confidence to move forward on what matters most to you.
Why not now? This is your one and only life!
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P.P.S. How long are you going to wait? Here’s the link to Get Unstuck.
CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke are Master certified life coaches, business consultants, speakers and authors of The Beauty of Conflict. They believe real relationships are the key to creating great business results. They’ll take your team from mediocre to great.
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