How can we truly be an ally, own our mistakes, revise our history and make a true change?
In this episode, CrisMarie and Susan address how can we have tough conversations without invalidating the other person’s feelings, history, or point of view. It all started when Canada Day and the 4th of July celebration came up, and how both countries have managed an issue that has existed forever: systemic racism. Both reflect on different ways in which we can engage with friends, family, even strangers without prejudice or assumptions. Take time to do your own processing and reflecting on these issues that disturb you, check your privilege, and act.
Processing feelings may take years and it will be hard, but it’s the starting point of healing. Talk about what makes you uncomfortable and hold yourself and your history accountable.
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Key Take-Aways
How do we celebrate holidays that are based upon systemic issues that hurt people?
History cannot be changed, but we can work to prevent it from being repeated.
The only way to have the hard conversation is having it, treating the parts through love and comprehension.
Having black and white decisions break down dialogue.
There are two factors to take into account: the systemic issue at hand and the personal stories around that issue.
Find people different from you to have awkward or difficult conversations.
Blaming will never solve any problem.
Use reflecting dialogue to your advantage.
Resources
The Beauty of Conflict: Harnessing Your Team’s Competitive Advantage by CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke
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CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke
Coaches, Business Consultants, Speakers and Authors of The Beauty of Conflict
CrisMarie and Susan work with leaders and teams, couples in business, and professional women.
They help turnaround dysfunctional teams into high-performing, cohesive teams who trust each other, deal with differences directly, and have clarity and alignment on their business strategy, so they create great results.
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