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High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out

Updated: Jul 18, 2022

We are in a critical moment where there is tension and total polarization around several issues. In this episode of The Beauty of Conflict, Susan and CrisMarie discuss “High Conflict - Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out”, a book by Amanda Ripley. In high conflict, people believe they’re righteous, make negative assumptions about those with different positions, and believe that the only acceptable solution is a total victory. It’s not healthy and there are no winners. After having read the book, Susan talks with CrisMarie about how it navigates different stories and characters to explore high conflict and tools to get out of it like investigating the conflict’s understory, avoiding binary situations, finding common ground, and marginalizing fire starters.

Learn about this fascinating book and its teachings to deal with situations of high conflict if you ever find yourself involved in one.

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Key Take-Aways

  • How high conflict differs from regular conflict.

  • What the author of the book refers to as conflict entrepreneurs.

  • What is the understory when talking about conflict.

  • How to identify high conflict and shift out of it.

  • What three questions to ask yourself in high conflict.

  • How to create and deal with healthy conflict.


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CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke

Coaches, Business Consultants, Speakers and Authors of The Beauty of Conflict

CrisMarie and Susan work with leaders and teams, couples in business, and professional women.

They help dysfunctional turnaround teams into high-performing, cohesive teams who trust each other, deal with differences directly, and have clarity and alignment on their business strategy, so they create great results.

Download the eBook, How to Talk About Difficult Topics, today!

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